samedi 25 février 2012

Taking chances

Dating isn't easy, that's the least you can say…

I got really tired last few months after accumulating bad experiences and ending up going out with the same kind of man. The same immature, selfish, "not-sure-where-we-are-going-but-I-kinda-like-you", careless and inexpressive man-child. But after each deception, I was back in business looking for the RIGHT one. Most of my friends thought I was insane (or at least slightly mentally deficient) to go back in the game with the same enthusiasm. "You should learn from your mistakes", they seem to say. But in which way was it really my fault to believe real love is possible? I've realized my only real mistake was to pick the wrong guys to share my unaltered and intensely romantic idea of romance.

I was looking at some couples, the ones you hate cause they are too perfect for each other, and thought "why not me ?". And I was right to think so … After all, who can tell you "it's not for everyone", "it happens to one in a million"? Giving up hope in your dreams, is giving up your right to live the path that you've chosen for yourself. That thought, to me, is unbearable. In love, as in professional life, one needs to stay ambitious.

And somehow, it happened.

This time, I didn’t really expect it. One fine man (the whole package, believe me) decided to enter my life, and really wanted to get a special spot. I was doubtful at first, but my walls rapidly fell apart as I fell as quickly in love with him. For the first time, as far as my bandage-fixed heart can remember, the awkward match-making of two human beings was making perfect sense. And strangely enough, all the previous relationships were making sense as well. The bad dates, the insecure moments, the cheaters, the cheated, the ones I had a crush on but weren't moved, the ones who felt for me but didn’t move me, … all this non-sense which is the quest for "the one", was finally intelligible.

As a mad scientist, I was just experimenting different formulas, using a little bit of this, or a little less of that. With time, I had eliminated few factors that made the relationship explosive or too bland. This time I feel the chemical reaction is just right. This is an on-going experience though and I can't be sure of its outcome, after all in pharmaceutical industry you need few years of medical supervision to make sure a new product is working and has no dangerous after-effect. But what I'm 100% sure of, at this precise moment, is that everything is clear: neither fog, nor doubt about his feelings or mine towards each other. We are in love and that’s just what I need to know.    

So, be reassured my friends, I have learned my lesson, and I have chosen him.   

dimanche 22 janvier 2012

Thailand's influence

You know that you have lived for too long in Thailand when ... (non-exhaustive list)


- You never wonder who are the owners of all those dogs in the street
- You have never seen that many people without a leg or arm in the street asking for money, yet you rarely see anyone in a wheelchair
- Your sentences (even in English) end up by "krub", "kha" with the addition sometimes of "na"
- You check out how your hair looks like in motorbike's mirror
- You do the same for your pimples
- In the public transportations, you leave your seats to pregnant ladies, old people, young children … and monks !
- You know now why some guys keep the nail of their pinky longer (and you are still disgusted by it)
- You are obsessed by the 7/11 door ring
- You aren't surprised people sell food in the street, you aren't that concerned about the hygiene and you even buy some home every night
- When you sing along without understanding the lyrics of any Japanese or Korean song, you are very happy to be able to just sing out loud "Baby", "lady" or another variation of those words
- Whenever you buy something at any 7/11 you wait for the receipt and systematically throw it at the garbage can right outside of the shop
- You started a collection of plastic bags
- You have at least 20 plastic straws in your home and you never use them
- You have at least that many wooden chop-sticks
- You have been told "your skin is so white" and you take it as a compliment
- You go on a motorbike, take a tuk-tuk or a taxi without any fear for your own safety
- You hear "farang" every 2 minutes but you don't pay attention to it
- You smile to strangers and feel that people back in your home country are all so negative …

Feel free to add more in the comments

mercredi 11 janvier 2012

The coconut résumé syndrom

Australia, Brazil, Thailand, Mexico, California, Mediterranean coast, ... so many destinations that make salivating with envy the tourists around the world. But if some benefit of the coconut trees and beautiful sandy beaches, there must be some people who are working! Yet even after months or years to work in these paradises, as you return to France, recruiters look at you with a funny look. Your CV seems like a holiday long overdue


For several weeks you try to find work in France, after you have worked very hard for years in a company located in a country so "postcard" that all your French friends have passed the word to come to visit you at least once. However, if the beach may be famous in your last hometown, you did not see it as often as you'd hoped. Like thousands of locals, your week was summed up by these words: subway, work, sleep. Little by little, your efforts have paid and you have climbed one by one the hierarchical levels. It is proud of this experience - but not without sadness – that you've plunged back into the French labor market. Yet you can't find a job. After yet another rejection, you boil: "But why recruiters do not take me seriously?". The reason is well known: the coconut résumé syndrom.

The coconut résumé syndrom...

To acquire professional skills abroad, so deserving they may be, is not necessarily judged in its just value by HR who don't  have all the keys to understand this totally foreign universe, in the reading of your curriculum vitae. " I lived for 3 years in Greece. Hanging of this time while I was on parental leave, I received a successful MBA in English accredited by the international association. (…) In my return, my company dismissed me and I look for a work. Companies look at my CV and have fun with this training in Greece. A PRESTIGIOUS diploma became a joke!!!! ", so explains Melissa. The surprise is sometimes such as you become a curious animal. Delebecque experienced it: " I lived in Seychelles and worked in it. An employer convened me to an interview just to see the head of somebody who had worked in Seychelles and said it! "

... Or narrow-minded HR ...

Contact a former employer in a different language to confirm your words can scare recruiters. Like living your life in an earthly paradise makes you look a privileged who will ask for too many wage demands. In the end, seen from France, it is often difficult to evaluate an experience beyond our borders. "I work or live abroad (including Brazil) for 15 years, but I think to go back to France. Guess what worries me most: the narrow-mindedness of some members of the departments of human resources in France, as depicted anywhere on the net: 'Working too long abroad is not good! You work in college, not good! You installed your own business, suspect! You took an extended parental leave, not good! You are fluent in a language spoken only by a half-million people, crazy! You took a year sabbatical, clear! ", shows Sylvain. A counselor at the job center, however, confirms this lack of decline of some recruiters. "I can attest to the narrowness of mind which is reflected in the " philosophy" of Pole Emploi. In the computer file of the job seeker, the experiences in abroad do not count! Absurd! "laments Veronica. Sandra seems slightly more optimistic: "The narrowness hit France like a plague! But do not worry, everything can be cured :)"

Open their eyes!
Your complexion may be a bit more tanned than the other candidates' - although the neon lights are the same in the offices abroad or in Paris - but that does not mean that you have spent your time to bask in the sun. "Work experience is an experience, and the environment should not change that," said Sylvain. If your resume is a little erratic, take the time to detail your career choices and responsibilities shouldered during your atypical path in your motivation letter. Your curriculum will intrigue, for sure, but it is also an advantage to get an interview where you can further enhance these skills hard won in the tropical heat. Up to you to open the minds of your future employer! "From the perspective of the business, you have proven your openness, your curiosity. But you will truly make it all a" plus" professionally if you are able to show your value to the company itself. If you want to enhance your experience, you have to find the right words, beyond anecdotes, to describe how you've learned your skills acquired abroad directly and effectively. It is a major effort to do. "said Claude Mulsant, deputy director of Magellan *.

From Dream to Reality
Expatriation obviously enriches your life path and your career. The return to France should allow you to take advantage of the skills and knowledge acquired on the spot. Working abroad, even if the word "winter" does not really make sense in the local language, is not synonymous of a sabbatical year. Remember also when you had to work in a real sauna at the slightest failure of aircon or those evenings when you stayed cloistered in your office when there had been a notice of tropical storm. So bring back to reality the dreamy recruiters, stuck in their hazy weathers. Make them realize that the hard hours of labor are the same in Rio or in Maubeuge, and even more complicated because of the language barrier.
With a bit of explanation and openness, they will quickly realize the benefits of your arrival in their company. They still may envy you a little, but who could blame them ...


* The Magellan Network is a professional meeting, exchange of information and targeting those responsible for International Human Resources, International Relocation and Compensation & Benefits.

mercredi 28 décembre 2011

The 11 movies I've loved in 2011

I have been a lot to the theaters this year. Disappointing sometimes, often enjoyable, I came up with a list of 11 movies that I've really liked in 2011; it goes crescendo so read it all! :)

   
X-Men: First Class

After the really disappointing X-men: Wolwerine, this last opus of the successful franchise was really enjoyable. Not much to say about it except some awesome super powers, battle between evil and good and a nice 60's atmosphere. 




Fast Five

In a totally different genre, this action movie was really entertaining and the scenario wasn’t bad at all. Of course, the story stays simple: good bad guys against cops, sexy people and breathtaking car races, but it all works and gives a second breath to the Fast and Furious franchise.




     
Rise of the Planet of the Apes
For once, a prequel is even better than the original ! Great scenario and scenes, good actors and believable struggles in our little monkey friend's mind.



Friends with Benefits
Another surprise this year. Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis have a great chemistry in this romantic movie, really enjoyable and funny. I can't hide the fact that all those naked scenes were really enjoyable too
:) Too bad the ending is so cheesy! 




The Help
Just watched it in the plane and it was really good! Emma Stone is growing into a great actress. The topic of the black maid in the conservative white southern USA was really interestingly treated.

Hanna
What a movie! The young actress Saoirse Ronan plays a bad-ass killer trained by her dad. Great action and suspense. With a scary and cold Cate Blanchett (definitely my favorite actress)
 
The King's Speech
Rewarded by the Academy, The King's Speech is one of my favorite movies this year. The story is moving, funny and makes you learn a lot about the British monarchy.
     
Super 8
Ah! Finally a good movie from Steven Spielberg with a coming to age story. A young and passionate boy wants to direct a movie with friends and ends up falling in love with the main actress, meanwhile being witness in an alien invasion. Beautiful atmosphere, amazing young actors, great action and special effects.  
     
The Beaver
Probably the strangest movie of the year but wow! This movie directed by Jodie Foster stole my heart. Even if I needed few minutes to get into the "Mel Gibson talking to a beaver muppet", the actor played his part so well, from depressed to possessed, that you really believe that the Beaver is actually alive! And the ending: genius and shocking!
 
Contagion
Shocking, simplified, strong emotions and amazing actors (Kate Winslet, Marion Cotillard, Matt Damon, Laurence Fishburne
…). The viewer is witnessing the spread of an unknown disease, a scary one. No cure and dead people pilling up. You follow the journey of several actors in that medical catastrophe: a family, a WHO specialist, an epidemiologist… The story is really realistic and the staging is amazing! What a great idea Steven Soderbergh had to fade the sound and put music on when a emotional moment happened. Beautifully scary! 

 
50/50
Best surprise of the year and ultimately favorite movie of 2011. Funny and really touching, I have cried and laughed during the entire movie. Cancer is familiar to me and I've really liked the way it was talked about. No unnecessary teary moments, it sounded all very true to me. The two main actors are great: Joseph Gordon-Levitt (oh so handsome and cute) and a surprisingly earnest Seth Rogen, playing outside of his usual genre.

What were your favorite movies this year?

lundi 26 décembre 2011

My good resolutions for 2012

© Tammy Hanratty/Corbis

It's almost New Year and it's the time of the year when you analyze what happened (or didn't happen) and promise to yourself that THIS year you'll respect your new year's resolutions. So here are my 2012 resolutions :

- SPORT ! I need to get my exercice routine back and sweat my ass off at least 4 times a week.
- Party more ! Spend more time with my friends, who I've neglected lately.
- Find a new job ! Not easy to find a new job lately but I hope to reach my goal and find a great position in a media related field.
- Be happy in my personnal life, stop worrying about others too much and overthinking every single detail. Being positive and hang out with people who will care for me as much as I will care for them (so difficult to find those days).
- Travel more ! Places I'm dying to go soon : Japan, USA (New York and San Fransisco), India (Rajasthan), Morrocco. I'd love to go back to South Korea and Taiwan too.

So here are my good resolutions, what are yours ?

samedi 24 décembre 2011

What's left of the Christmas fun ?

AHHHH Christmas ! I remember when I was a little boy and I couldnt wait for that special day when I could discover great presents under the well decorated tree.

© Monalyn Gracia/Corbis

When you are an adult, Christmas has sadly lost most of its appeal ! First, you need to impress everyone that you have decided to invite to your table with a great meal and breath-taking decorations. It's now a competition between hosts and families. Christmas' Eve became tiring and troublesome. Before that you have weeks and weeks of christmas shopping cause everyone now has everything and it's more and more difficult to make people happy with a simple book or cd. And even with the best efforts, you may end up disapointing your loved one. Did you know that in France, a third of all christmas presents is sold online the next day ? Not everyone can pretend to be a good Santa !

So what is left of the christmas spirit when you aren't a young child anymore ? I guess what survives through the hassle of the years is probably this young version of you awakening at the simple thought of those great (and now refundable) presents under the well decorated tree. So enjoy this day and its tradition even if you are now on the wrong side of the screen and Merry Christmas to your inner child ! 

lundi 31 octobre 2011

Foreseeing for short-sighted

For the first time ever, I went to consult a fortune-teller. I didn't have any pre-conception going to check out someone with the sixth sense (I can see dead people ... brrrrr....). I don't really believe in it but I went there with an open-mind, ready to be dazzled ... or not !

(© Ableimages/fstop/Corbis)

One experience, which happened to my grand-mother, did make me feel a little worried before entering the place where future becomes present. When she was 16, she went to see a psychic in a little countryside fair. That old lady told her she would live a long life but that she will lose a baby and will die alone. As the first prophecy materialised with the death of her second baby boy, she is really scared, now that she is over 70 years old, to see the second statement come true.

So it's with very precised questions - none of them even remotely concerning my death of the one of a loved one - that I've crossed over the treshold of the massage parlor (next to a ladyboy bar, in the red light district) where Mrs Know-it-all was officiating and showing off her divinatory skills. 

After few minutes waiting for her, comfortably seated in a massage chair, SHE appeared, sleepy as hell. To her defense, I'm sure fortune-telling takes out a lot energy out of someone. Once she spotted her customer, she dressed up a small table with an old tablecloth and puts on a big scarf over her shoulders. Tarot cards in hand, a small prayer and my future was hers.

- Her read on my personnality : You think way too much/You have the sixth sense (Hope not to see dead people ... brrr...)/You are special (how ? HOOOOOW ?)/You will always find a way to get money/But it's hard for you to save some (Gays love their shopping, helloooo !)

- Question 1 : Should I stay in Thailand ? Your soul is very thai (drama ?) so duh !

- Question 2 : Will I find a job ? Yeah but dont start a business with another person (but I was thinking too ...) Just be your own boss (but i really wanted to ...) just DON'T DO IT ! (okay ...)

- Question 3 : What kind of person should I be in a relationship with ? You are stubborn, live in your own world so it's hard for people to understand you and get bored easily (ouch !) So he better be handsome, clever, funny and rich (YEEEES, PLEEEAAASE !)